From a great article about Narcissistic Moms…

12 Key Phrases Narcissistic Mothers Say and How To Respond To Them (msn.com)

Things Narcissistic Mothers Say

If you’re not sure whether or not your mother is a narcissist, or simply want clarity on which parts of her parenting were informed by narcissism, Niloufar Esmaeilpour of Lotus Therapy and Counselling Centre offers some helpful insight into some of the key phrases to look out for:

“You exist to fulfill my needs.” Narcissistic mothers often view their children as extensions of themselves and may expect their children to meet their emotional needs and desires. 

“I’m always right, and you’re always wrong.” They may belittle their children’s opinions and dismiss their feelings, making the child doubt their own judgment and self-worth. 

“You’re not good enough.” Narcissistic mothers may constantly criticize and undermine their child’s self-esteem, leading to feelings of inadequacy. 

“You’re so lucky to have me as your parent.” They may use guilt or manipulation to control their child’s behavior and make them feel indebted for their care. 

“I sacrifice so much for you.” They may use their sacrifices, real or perceived, to guilt-trip their children into compliance. 

“You’re the problem, not me.” Narcissistic mothers often deflect blame onto their children, making them feel responsible for any issues in the family. 

“You should be grateful for everything I do for you.” They may use their acts of kindness or generosity as leverage to maintain control over their child. 

It’s important not to nurture any of the beliefs these kinds of statements may plant into your subconscious. Other common sentiments said by narcissist mothers include:

“I know you better than you know yourself.” 

“Why can’t you be more like your sibling?”

“You owe me for everything I’ve done for you.”

“I did everything for you and this is how you repay me? “

“You’re being too dramatic, it wasn’t that bad.”